Bullying is not okay

THERE are many cases of bullying at home, in school and even at the workplace.

Bullying is deliberately hurting other people with words or actions. It is a repetitive behavior.

There are many types of bullying. Here are some common types with examples:

  • Physical – spanking, kicking, boxing, punching, hitting, pushing
  • Verbal – name calling, teasing, joking
  • Social/Emotional – pointing out “differences,” intimidating another person, or spreading rumors
  • Cyber – done via text, email, social media
  • Sexual – vulgar gestures and crude comments
  • According to a study done by Plan Philippines in 2009, there are five out of 10 children bullied in Grades 1 to 3; seven out of 10 children bullied in Grades 4 to 6 and six out of 10 in high school.

    Bullying hurts inside and out. A bullied person may become sensitive, withdrawn, insecure and cautious. They may most likely become depressed.

    There are ways to know if someone you know (your child or your friend) is being bullied.

    He or she has unexplainable injuries, lost of destroyed clothing, books and other things. He or she may have difficulty sleeping or may have frequent nightmares. They will have change in behavior – always feeling sick, doesn’t want to go to school, decline in grades/loss of interest in school activities. He or she may also feel helpless and will develop low self-esteem.

    This can be prevented. Support system is important. A parent or sibling should be available to talk to this child. Be open to talk about it. Listen to what they are saying and not saying.

    Bullied people should know and understand that they are not the problem. Most of the time, the bullies have problems. They might have witnessed physical and verbal violence at home. They saw their father hit their mother and they think it is ok.

    Bullied people should stand up and say you don’t like what the bully is doing. It is fighting back. It is telling them to stop. Stay calm and talk friendly. Move away and join a crowd. It is essential to talk to someone about it. If in school, visit the Guidance Office or the Discipline Office. If it happens at work, talk to your friend or a supervisor.

    Bullies should be taught anger management. Allow them to be angry, it is a normal emotion. However, it is not allowed to hurt others or yourself.

    Republic Act 10627, or the Anti-Bullying Act of 2013, empowers the Department of Education to impose appropriate administrative sanctions on school administrators who fail to stop the bullying. Private schools should also have anti-bullying policies to prevent this.

    Be a buddy, not a bully.